Saturday, May 25, 2019

Choice’s interfaith programme - MAD Project

Choice’s interfaith programme - MAD Project

It was my first time helping. For many of us Choicees, working together with our neighbouring Mosque by assisting them to distribute free bubur lambuk and dates to passing vehicles and local residents was truly a memorable experience. I personally want to thank the staff for being so welcoming to us and for allowing us to share with solidarity, the spirit of Ramadan with our fellow Muslim brothers. 

After giving out the bubur we had a short briefing to familiarise us with Islam and we were also invited to  break fast with our Muslim community at the Masjid. Before the buka puasa, the Imam first introduced us to the community following which prayers in rememberance of the departed were conducted. 

Delicious food were served including sirap Juice,Tom Yum & Bubur lambuk. Some even brought food from home to share with the community.

Waiting to break fast

Our Yummy Tom Yum Soup

Fifi...trying to Feed the passing vehicles


Just us.. AA, Care bear, Ruth, Chris, Cher, Jon, Jas, Fifi, Daiz & EJ

Mandatory Selfie FieFie&Daiz

the Boys...we did not hold traffic....

Group Shot

The Men again

Trying to get ready in the middle of the road was not easy- but we did it. We managed to distribute all.

Distributing More bubur

Dates and fruits to start our breaking fast. 

Friday, February 15, 2019

Choice English KL 103 (CEKL103) - 5th to 7th April 2019


The Choice English KL 103 (CEKL103) Weekend will be held from the 5th to the 7th of April 2019. Kindly help to invite your friends or family member who are single, age 23 to 40 for this Weekend.


  • If someone special to you had one more day to live, what would you say to your (mom/ dad/ best friend/ girl friend/ boy friend/ teacher) while they are in the living?
  • How have you been relating to yourself lately? Do you still find yourself struggling to forgive someone who have wronged you?
  • Do you still find yourself wanting to make a broken relationship right, but just don't know how?
If you have been saying yes to the prompting above, make a choice today. Come experience the Choice Weekend (CEKL103).

To know more about the CHOICE Weekend visit our website
If you are already thinking about joining, drop us a mail at We will respond to you the soonest we can.


To Know God, To Love God and To Serve God.
Warm Regards,
CHOICE English Kuala Lumpur

Wednesday, January 16, 2019

The Top 8 Signs of an Emotionally Unhealthy Christian

by Pete Scazzero

A number of years ago I had to face the fact that I would never grow spiritually beyond my level of health emotionally. I had many unhealthy patterns of thought and behavior that had dug ruts in my soul, and they were wreaking havoc in my personal life and in the church I was leading.
The reality was that my discipleship and spirituality had not touched a number of deep internal wounds and sin patterns. I was stuck at an immature level of spiritual and emotional development. And my way of living the Christian life was not transforming the deep places in my life.
In short order, here are the top eight signs that I was an emotionally unhealthy Christian:
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1. Using God to Run from God

1. Using God to Run from God

I tend to create a great deal of “God-activity” in order to avoid difficult areas in my life God wants to change. I know I’m in trouble when I . . .
- Pray about God doing my will, not about me surrendering to his will.
- Demonstrate “Christian behaviors” so significant people think well of me.
- Use biblical truth to judge and devalue others.
- Make pronouncements like, “The Lord told me I should do this,” when the truth is, “I think the Lord told me to do this.”
- Use Scripture to justify my sinful patterns instead of evaluating them under God’s lordship.
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2. Ignoring Anger, Sadness, and Fear

2. Ignoring Anger, Sadness, and Fear

Like most Christians, I was taught that almost all feelings are unreliable and not to be trusted. It is true that some Christians follow their feelings in an unhealthy, unbiblical way. It is more common, however, to encounter Christians who do not believe they have permission to admit their feelings or express them openly. This applies especially to such “difficult” feelings as fear, sadness, shame, anger, hurt, and pain. And yet, how can we listen to what God is saying and evaluate what is going on inside when we cut ourselves off from our emotions?

3.  Denying the Impact of the Past on the Present

For years, I was under the delusion that because I accepted Jesus, my old life was no longer in me. My past before Christ was painful. I wanted to forget it. I never wanted to look back. Life was so much better now that Jesus was with me. I thought I was free.
But I will never forget the first time we made a genogram—a diagram outlining some of the patterns of our families. It revealed that our marriage bore a striking resemblance to that of our parents’. Even though we had been committed Christians for almost twenty years, our ways of relating mirrored much more our family of origin than the way God intended for his new family in Christ.
The work of growing in Christ actually demands we go back in order to break free from unhealthy and destructive patterns that prevent us from loving ourselves and others as God designed.
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4. Doing -for- God Instead of Being -with- God

4. Doing -for- God Instead of Being -with- God

Work for God that is not nourished by a deep interior life with God will eventually be contaminated by other things such as ego, power, needing approval from others, and buying into the wrong ideas of success and the mistaken belief that we can’t fail. We become “human doings” not “human beings.” Our experiential sense of worth and validation gradually shifts from God’s unconditional love for us in Christ to our works and performance. Our activity for God can only properly flow from a life with God.

5. Spiritualizing Away Conflict

Perhaps one of the most destructive myths alive in the Christian community today is the belief that smoothing over disagreements or “sweeping them under the rug” is part of what it means to follow Jesus. Jesus shows us that healthy Christians do not avoid conflict. His life was filled with it! He was in regular conflict with the religious leaders, the crowds, the disciples—even his own family. Out of a desire to bring true peace, Jesus disrupted the false peace all around him. He refused to spiritualize conflict avoidance.
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6. Covering Over Brokenness, Weakness, and Failure

6. Covering Over Brokenness, Weakness, and Failure

The pressure to present an image of ourselves as strong and spiritually “together” hovers over most of us. We feel guilty for not measuring up, for not making the grade. We forget that not one of us is perfect and that we are all sinners.
The Bible does not spin the flaws and weaknesses of its heroes. Moses was a murderer. Hosea’s wife was a prostitute. Peter rebuked God! Noah got drunk. Jonah was a racist. Jacob was a liar. John Mark deserted Paul. Elijah burned out. Jeremiah was depressed and suicidal. Thomas doubted. Moses had a temper. Timothy had ulcers.
And all these people send the same message: that every human being on earth, regardless of their gifts and strengths, is weak, vulnerable, and dependent on God and others.
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7. Living Without Limits

7. Living Without Limits

I was taught that good Christians constantly give and tend to the needs of others. I wasn’t supposed to say no to requests for help because that would be selfish. The core spiritual issue here relates to our limits and our humanity. We are not God. We cannot serve everyone in need.
Why don’t we take appropriate care of ourselves? Why are so many Christians, frantic, exhausted, overloaded, and hurried? Few Christians make the connection between love of self and love of others. As Parker Palmer said in his book Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation, “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer others.”
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8. Judging Other People’s Spiritual Journey

8. Judging Other People’s Spiritual Journey

This has always been one of the greatest dangers in Christianity. Sadly, we often turn our differences into moral superiority or virtues. By failing to let others be themselves before God and move at their own pace, we inevitably project onto them our own discomfort with their choice to live life differently than we do. Like Jesus said, unless I first take the log out of my own eye, knowing that I have huge blind spots, I am dangerous. I must see the extensive damage sin has done to every part of who I am—emotion, intellect, body, will, and spirit—before I can attempt to remove the speck from the eye of another (Matthew 7:1–5).
God, as I look over this list, the only thing I can say is, “Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on me, a sinner.” Thank you that I stand before you in the righteousness of Jesus, in his perfect record and performance, not my own. I ask that you would not simply heal the symptoms of what is not right in my life, but that you would surgically remove all that is in me that does not belong to you. As I think about what I have read, Lord, pour light over the things that are hidden. May I see clearly as you hold me tenderly.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
This article is excerpted from Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Pete Scazzero

Thursday, November 22, 2018

What is Sex all About?

That is the question, is it not? 

Now the participants of Choice were given a few topics on which we were to stage a play and this was the topic given to my group. One can only imagine the teasing which took place when our peers realized that this was the topic given. I mean how does one stage a play on sex ? It took me awhile to think of a story-line, a few days of musing before I finally decided that I would write a story on relationships of which Sex would be its main theme. 

I  wrote a story on the heartache, grief, and triumphs of one girl who overcame an abusive relationship of which her boyfriend had attempted to coerce her into having sex with him and when she refused, he began to cheat on her. Now why did I write the story this way instead of perhaps touching on other issues such as prostitution etc ? Its because through my own experience and that of others I have come to see that so many of us have experienced deep sorrow and anguish in the relationships we have been in. Many then who watched this play of ours might be able to relate to the characters in the play for more likely than not would they have found themselves in a similar position before. 

Mary our mother is always there for us!

As I developed the characters, they became real to me. The girl in my story, I needed to ensure that she would convey a very important message to my audience, the message being while we love our partners with our whole hearts, once there is some form of abuse or cheating, its okay to walk away, its okay to put ourselves first, and most importantly it is okay to say no. Be it man or woman, whoever exercises their right to say no to sex, no one can or should attempt/ force them to change their mind. Sex should be between two consenting adults who trust each other, where such intimacy is used as an expression of love. We need to all understand however that before we can love others we need to love ourselves first and sometimes that would mean walking away from the ones we love. 

I strongly believe that God has a plan for us all. Our failed relationships teaches us important lessons on life and how we wish to be treated. I for one can say that I’ve emerged a stronger and wiser woman. I’ve grown and overcome many trials that have come my way and looking back I see now what I could not see then, that is, no one will have it easy in this journey called life. How we deal with our problems will determine how successful we eventually are. Hence, to sum it up, my play was a story of a young girl and how she overcame the crosses in her life.


To my readers, spare me a few more moments of your time as I touch ever so briefly on 3 other plays that took place on that memorable day. The other groups were given topics on belonging, masks we wear in our daily lives as well as reconciliation with our past mistakes. Boy must I say all performed splendidly. I watched my close friends pretend to be thugs, police officers, waiters, each and every one of them told a story so befitting to the topics given to them. The way the plays were staged left me in stitches, to say I was howling in laughter would be an understatement. Truly engaging and entertaining were they. 

I noticed as well that each of us staged a play on relationships, be it relationships with our peers, our families or our significant others. That made me realize that so many of us face the same struggle, the struggle being how do we mend the brokenness in our lives and relationships? Well that is the real question is it not? And while I do not have a definite answer to such an important question as yet, what I can say I learnt from friends and facilitators at Choice is that we’re all a work in progress. We try and fail and try again to mend our relationships and what counts is that we keep trying. At the end of the day its okay to not be okay for in this chaos that is life we have been lucky to have found a group of like-minded people to support us in our struggles and celebrate with us during our triumphs. I thank the Choice team for encouraging us to stage these plays for it has brought us all just that much closer.

Nicole CEKL102

Sunday, November 11, 2018

My Journey

There are many times in our lives, where we tend to lose our way..or be directed to a different path. Often we sometimes tend to lose ourselves..our way on how we truly are as an individual

That was how my life was ....ever since I lost myself.

I  was dealing with a different person within myself and no matter how I tried, I could never find my true self ..that funny bubbly girl that I am.

For a couple of years I begin to find ways to gain my courage and begin looking for myself. My mum found this article on Choice and advise me to go.Thus packed was I and off on my way ..

As the days pass, I begin to slowly discover my true self and sooner the same me begin to arise from the depths of the ocean. I started to feel the same person I was.

After Choice weekend, I begin to feel the changes immerging inside of me..I was becoming the same bubbly girl and slowly tearing the mask I was wearing . It was a change that I had long for a long time

Now, even though there are still some time in which reflection and comforting feeling passes my mind..but through it all, I am happy that finally the really me has a chance to shine again and not be close by grief and sorrow that I had once battle. I am heal and ready to embarked on future adventure with my newly met friends and the people I love.

Lastly, I wish for all those out there , if you are facing a time in which life seem bleak and that you feel the world is on your shoulder, always remember , there is a friend nearby who is always standing by listening and when you call, Jesus will always be there , watching and guiding you.

Diane, ChoiceKL102

Wednesday, October 24, 2018

CEKL 102 - The beginning of a journey

God works in many mysterious ways, in His own perfect time. He has brought us together as a family for a reason and now it is time to journey with one another. The relationships we now have are not a one off thing, following which we disappear but it is meant to be a someone we can belong to as we go through the ups and downs of life together.

Welcome to the family CEKL102!!!

If Choice was the reset button for you, it was only the beginning and not the end of this journey. There are always two questions that comes to mind when forming a bond with your CEKL batchmates. Are you willing to get to know a person? Are you willing to share your life with others? Don't let the sharing stop with Choice but continue to grow with one another. Sometimes it is only a matter of picking up the phone to call.

And now... tadaaa...... this is what we did after Choice...

Meeting up again was the best thing ever!!!!

Lunch date!!!

And some awesome night sessions....
Who wants sotong?? 

Not forgetting our Melaka comrades with their latest member. Whoot whoot!

I'm sure Debbie will call them superstars..

Kena chop.. next sister in line!!!

Second chop>>> 👍 sister very pandai la

The 3 sworned sistars... 

The 3 blood sistars... 😂..... from Assumption

And friends... you know what!!!! The youngest from this family of four brothers has finally graduated! They are a legendary family from which comes the likes of SILENT and NOISE.

Finally, we end with the following testimonials from our CEKL102 Choicees: (Thanks Charlotte for compiling them!! 😉)

At first I couldn't be asked to go, and then my mom had a serious op that week and lagi i didn't wanna go, but when she came out from ICU she made me go in the end!!! . I came with a very heavy & distracted heart... At first on friday night, it was still hard for me to open up & share but, it got better along the way.. Many emotions came upon me in that 3 days, never thought I would feel moved with waterfalls gushing down my cheeks. To sum the 3 days I had there, I just felt light, in that short while I actually felt happy 😊 But the best thing among all were the people.. I went there and met strangers, strangers who became friends, and friends that became family ❤ - Ralphie

Coming with an open mind and heart gave me the chance  to experience and take away what I needed most from this CHOICE weekend. Feeling part of a bigger family! - Gary

It was a life changing weekend, a weekend that brought many hearts together and created a sense of is a secret that has to be experienced physically and not through reading these words - Debby

An eye opening experience that made me think what I’ve missed in life and moving forward what I should b doing with my life! Thank you CHOICE 102 - Emiliene 

Personally I loved it.. I get to connect with new catholic friends as I never had catholic friends after confirmation.. makes me go church more as I have some friends to go with now - Dezmond

Attending Choice 102 is the most life changing experience I've ever had! I am now closer to God in prayers and church thanks to all the take home messages I have learned from the programme. I want to be a better person now and I am so thankful to Choice. - Anita

Earlier I had a big question in my mind whether joining choice program is necessary as my schedule was packed. After joining choice my life began to bloom again. I made the right choice and there is no regrets for it. If you have the choice join choice program to create miracles in your life. Cheers - Catterine

After Choice weekend, there has been a lot of reflecting and questioning. It was a weekend where I found myself exactly where I was when I first confronted my issues 7 years ago. This struggle was so real! I was not contented by the state of my current life. However, God had redeemed me and I accepted this invitation to search within myself again.  I managed to received this huge grace of healing by attending this weekend! I was finally prepared to be still and to enjoy being in the company of Jesus. - Jacinta

I have always had the impression that CHOICE was where you go and find a partner. But was I wrong. Coming to choice was the best decision I’ve made thus far this year. The experience and the people I’ve met only for 3 days I now call family. It has brought me close to God and I would like to thank the team for making this a great and wonderful experience. To know CHOICE you have to experience it yourself. - Brandan


Before we say goodbye, we will like to thank all Choicees and everybody who had contributed in whatever way towards making this weekend happened. Thank you also for all your prayers. Nothing can be done without God's help. 

To relive our memories of CEKL102, here is the video during our free time... macam around a campfire 🔥🔥

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

All sins can be forgiven except one

This particular bible verse caught my eye today and I thought of sharing:

"So I tell you, every sin and blasphemy can be forgiven--except blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, which will never be forgiven."

Matthew 12:31,  Mark 3:28-29, Luke 12:10

So what is actually blasphemy against the Holy Spirit? In Catholic teaching there are six sins that blaspheme against the Holy Spirit. They are:

  1. Despair (believing that one's evil is beyond God's forgiveness);
  2. Presumption (glory without merit, that is, hope of salvation without keeping the Commandments, or expectation of pardon for sin without repentance)
  3. Envying the goodness of another (sadness or repining at another's growth in virtue and perfection);
  4. Obstinacy in sin (willful persisting in wickedness, and running on from sin to sin, after sufficient instructions and admonition);
  5. Final impenitence (to die without either confession or contrition for our sins);
  6. Impugning the known truth (to argue against known points of faith, and this includes misrepresenting parts or all of the Christian faith to make it seem undesirable)

Going through the list, it sounds like those sins a person does not have any insight they are committing.